Date an Entrepreneur
by: Bridget Porowski
(based on “Date a Girl who Reads” by Rosemarie Urquico)
Date an entrepreneur. Date a guy who spends his money on electronics instead of sporting events. One who’s kept a running list of things he’s wanted to change since he was a kid.
Find an entrepreneur. You’ll know that he is one because he will always have his smart phone out. He’s the one skimming TechCrunch, the one who can’t stop talking when he finds the idea he wants. You see the weird guy scribbling madly on an empty page in his notebook? That’s the entrepreneur. He can never resist a new opportunity, especially when it’s risky.
He’s the guy wearing jeans and a t-shirt while meeting with investors. He’s on his laptop at the coffee shop down the street. If you take a peek in his mug, the coffee’s cooled off because he’s kind of mentally occupied. Lost in a world of the entrepreneurs making. Sit down and chat. Let him talk about venture capital, angel investors, and IPO’s. If you interrupt his ideas he might give you a look, as most guys who create do not like to be interrupted. Try giving him a problem to fix. Ask him for his help or advice.
He’ll gladly give it.
Let him know what you really think of the new iphone. Ask him for his honest opinion. Understand that if he says he understands calculus and Python he’s telling the truth. His economic predictions are spot-on. He’ll rub off on you, and before you know it you too will carefully compare grocery store prices by the ounce.
It’s easy to date an entrepreneur. Give him amazon gift cards for Christmas and his birthday. Give him the gift of ideas. Ask him to help you compare airline prices. Don’t be shocked if he tries to move Valentine’s Day so you can be together. Let him know that you understand that ideas are love. Understand that he knows the difference between the present and the future, but he’s going to try to make life a little more like his vision for the future. Don’t try to stop him.
He has to give it a shot somehow.
Lie to him. He’ll always catch your lie. Behind words are other things: incentive, motivation, meaning, implication… It will not be the end of the world.
Fail him. Because an entrepreneur knows how to create opportunity from failure. Because an entrepreneur understands that nothing truly comes to an end. That you can always create something from nothing. That you can recreate again and again and still be the hero. That life is meant to have a challenge or two.
Why be frightened of everything that you lack? Entrepreneurs understand that people, like companies, grow. He will help you realize your potential. He will study you and work to figure you out.
He will propose during a documentary. Or very casually next time you fail him. Via Skype. Or when you least expect it.
If you find a guy who creates, keep him near. When you find him up at 2 AM wrestling over his latest idea, make him a cup of tea and don’t be afraid to sit in silence. You may lose him for a couple of hours but he will always come back to you. He’ll talk as if the projections in his head are reality, because someday, they will be.
You will smile so hard you will wonder why your heart doesn’t burst. Together you will create the vision for your lives, have kids with strange ideas and even stranger imaginations. He will introduce your children to Lego and math, maybe in the same day. You will walk the winters of your old age together, because ideas never get old. Because he’ll mess with your computer, but never your heart.
Date an entrepreneur because you deserve it. You deserve a guy who can give you the most vibrant life imaginable. Share your dreams with him, let him play with your hair and stare into your eyes. If you want the world and the universe beyond it, date an entrepreneur.